Never have I been SO grateful for a year to be finished.
I still deal with so much anger and betrayal. It has turned my life upside down. And the one thing that I just can't shake is that he has already left me. He doesn't realize it yet, but he has. He left me when he sought her out, and I don't believe that he's coming back. I know I'm supposed to be with him. I always have. But he didn't know in the beginning, and sometimes I think he still questions whether he's supposed to be with me. I am filled with terror beyond words that I have and can express. I'm afraid to leave. I'm afraid he will leave. Which torments me, because *I* want to be the one who is in control of this. I want to be the one to leave if it comes to that. I don't want it to come to that. It makes me horribly sad. I am heartbroken. And the one thing he swore he'd never do, letting us go to sleep without talking stuff out. He did that last night... asked me what was wrong. I said, "nothing." as I always do when something is wrong. Hey, I'm a woman, I still have problems with some of that crap. And he didn't say anything. He knew there was something... but he didn't press...
That almost killed me. The first time EVER in our 11 year relationship that's ever happened. I have a friend who posts on Facebook stuff like "Never trust someone who lies to you and never love someone you don't trust." HOW do I do that when I am married to the person I can no longer trust. And who makes me not trust myself or my feelings OR my intuition. My mom taught me to never EVER ignore my intuition, and I have been ignoring it for MONTHS. Because I don't know if it's my intuition or my distrust that causes the thoughts that plague me. And I don't know if it even matters. I love that I'm starting sentences with prepositions (not really).
So - now what? Well, I'll tell you. I am going to attempt to enjoy the ride. I'm going to try to allow vulnerability with him, because we both need that intimacy. I'm going to try to let go of the whore who continues to plague my thoughts. I am going to IGNORE those who tell me there is no way he didn't sleep with her, because I have received divine confirmation that he has NOT. I am going to try to deal with my heartbreak, and try to heal. I say try, because I honestly don't know if I can do it. I don't know if my soul house can deal with another wrecking ball like this. Even today, I wish I could just get in the car and drive away. But I have my beautiful kids to take care of. And I will not let them go. Secrets kill families. My mom told me that when I was 14 years old or so. And she's right. This secret was an especially painful one, but not as painful as it could have been. I just don't want to hurt the way I've been hurting. And I see a LOT of Paper Voodoo in my future.
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